EP-13 - Rose (Overcoming Self-Talk & Self-Acceptance

எல்லா ஹீரோக்களுக்கும் ம் ஹீரோயின் களுக்கும் வணக்கம்.
In this week, we are celebrating Stephen covey Habit-1 Proactive Series, today we are going to converse about Self-Talk / Self-Acceptance.
We have earlier discussed on “விடாது கறுப்பு” (Destructive force)”. We all have this விடாது கறுப்பு with us which our self-talk. We spend most of our times in this self-talk.

For example, any day if you stand in front of the mirror, this விடாது கறுப்பு woke up instantaneously keep on saying “I am black, I am ugly, I am fat, I am lean etc etc.

This self-talk never sleeps & wakes up before we do any work or any new initiative. Please watch your thoughts which wake up very violently when we go for interviews or performance discussion with manager. In fact the world around us wants to install more and more self-destructive thoughts to make us feel less powerful and uglier so that they can sell more stuff. Let us converse about this. Here we list our short comings in a endless way. We all do a lot of analyse and para-analyse when it comes to us.

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Moving to Scene2:

Let us do a mindfulness exercise day or whenever you get time today. Take a rose. Just focus on the rose for 20 mins. This is one of exercises that Leadership guru Robin Sharma suggests. If you are hi-tech guy, you can do this exercise in virtual reality.

Feel the rose, smell rose, feel the texture of the rose, observe the pedals, rose buds etc etc. feel throne and greener part in the bottom. Just focus on the rose for 20 mins. How do you feel? What are your emotions? We relish the beauty of ROSE wholeheartedly.

Let us mix these two scenes together.

Steven covey takes about Paradigm shift. Please listen carefully. This is where our paradigm shifts happens. A rose flower which has a maximum of 2-3 days life is so beautifully crafted. What about us. What about you?

Are not we beautiful and are not we wonderful. There are 7 Billion people in the world. No one is similar. Even the identical twins are different. Everyone of us as unique as The rose exercise which we did earlier.

ஒரு ரோஜாவோடு மல்லிகை அல்ல ரோஜாவோடு ரோஜாவை ஒப்பிடாதீங்க - Oru Vairamuthu Kavithai.

We all are unique. We all have wonderful unique talents and strength. We are as beautiful as or more beautiful than rose.

There is a irony here. when it comes to Rose, we are wholeheartedly appreciate it beauty and whereas it comes to us we criticise ourselves to the core by this விடாது கறுப்பு.

Exercise for today: Similar to the Rose exercise, Please do the exercise with yourself in front of mirror. Please appreciate about yourself, your inner beauty, your strengths, the challenges that you have faced. You can list down all positives about yourself.

There is a mirror image wherein cat sees a lion in the mirror. What matters the most is how you see yourself in the mirror.

In Alcohol anonyms program, they say a quote, accept things that you cannot change, change what you cannot accept.

Understand those விடாது கறுப்பு thoughts and empower with positive thoughts.

ரோஜாவை நாம ரசித்தது போல கருப்பா இருந்தாலும் சிகப்பாஇருந்தாலும் குண்டா இருந்தாலும் ஒல்லியா இருந்தாலும் நெட்டையா இருந்தாலும் குட்டையா இருந்தாலும் நாம எல்லோருமே ஐஸ்வர்யா ராய்கள் தான் சூப்பர்ஸ்டார்ஸ் தான்

நீ உன்னை நேசி உலகம் உன்னை நேசிக்க துவங்கும் என்னா நமக்கு நாம தான் உலகம்– Josephine billings

To over our own விடாது கறுப்பு, we have to say ourselvesஅழகே உன்னை ஆர்த்திக்கிறான் என் அழகே உன்னை நேசிக்கிறேன்

See you tomorrow.

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Reference:-
Theme for the week: Be Proactive – Courtesy: Habit1 of Steven Covey’s 7 Habits of highly effective people.
(Start Date 12th Oct, End date 18th Oct – Saturday to Sunday)

Habit1: Video (Please watch it without fail)
7 Habits of Highly Effective People - Habit 1 - Presented by Stephen Covey Himself
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xaTmv...