EP-20 – Pancha Thanthiram Part2 (பஞ்சதந்திரம் 2 )- Begin with End in Mind (Habit 2 Week) – Zero to Hero 100 days Personal Transformation Journey

எல்லா ஹீரோக்களுக்கும் ம் ஹீரோயின் களுக்கும்
வணக்கம்.

We have
successfully travelled 20 days together.

Theme for the week,
from today till next Friday (25^th Oct), we are going to keep Begin
with the End in Mind - Stephen covey Habit-2.

Today we are going
to delve deeper on our Panchathanthiram Part2. Begin with end in mind, We are
going to create poster for your life encompassing all your 5 panchathanthiram
by the end of today’s episode.

It is more like a
compass than a clock. We all are running faster than clock thereby harming
ourselves. This gives compass to live an effective life.

It is Living life
by Design than default. It is Deciding “What is important?, What is not
important?. By following Habit2, we are going to envision outcomes before you
act. Covey says, “Mental creation precedes physical creation”. It is about
bringing the best Quality of life and Bring the best (HERO) in you.

Similar to Nagesh
in Thiruvilaiyadal movie, I am good at asking questions. I do not know the
answers. Answers always come from you. I put together some questions. Take top
3 questions and come up with a tweet message so that you can create the poster.

1^st  Ball of life - Family(Glass ball):-

If we keep family is
our first ball, are we giving enough priorities. Most of times, we take the
loved ones for granted. I did this mistake quite often. I have given more
importance to my onshore director than my daughter’s commitment or wife’s
commitment which I realized it in a hard way. Adhere to your commitments to
family.

•          What
  are the top three goals?
•          How do
  they describe you in your 80^th birthday?
•          What is
  your influence on his or her life that they can talk about in your 80^th
  Birthday?
•          What are
  your qualities/attributes that is admiring in you/them that they can talk about
  in your 80^th birthday?
•          What do
  they want?
•          How to  bring more love in families
•          How to bring
  more happiness in families
•          How to
  bring more fun in families
•          How to
  bring more relaxation in families.
•          How can
  I help each person in the family to bring their best talents/skills so that
  they can live their life to the fullest?
•          What
  are the ways I am respecting my family/family members
•          What are
  the things that I can do on a daily basis so that they feel valued in the family?
  
•          What
  are the ways I can avoid to take them for granted approach?
•          How are
  we treating each other in the family?
•          How can
  we grow collectively as a family so that we can be the role model in our circle?
•          How can
  I bring more fun in the family?
•          How are
  empowering our family members?

2^nd Ball of Life – Friendship – GLASS Ball:-

•          How do
  they describe you in your 80^th birthday that they can talk about in
  your 80^th birthday?
•          What is
  your influence on his or her life that they can talk about in your 80^th
  birthday?
•          What are
  your qualities/attributes that is admiring in you/them that they can talk about
  in your 80^th birthday?
•          Who are your significant friends?
•          How much time are we spending with them?
•          What are things we do to strengthen our
  relationship?
•          What is the foundation of friendship?

Dr. Ruthdran, Psychiatrist says, Both person have to grow in
any relationship. That is the fundamental of any relationship. How are we
growing together.

3^rd Ball of Life – Health – GLASS BALL:-

•          What are our short term goals?
•          What are our long term goals?
•          How to bring healthy habits in our day-today
  life?
•          What can I do better to feel energized throughout
  the day?
•          How are my food habits?
•          What are my healthy food habits?
•          What are my unhealthy food habits?
•          What can I do to address it?
•          How many hours of sleep do I have on a daily basis?
  Is it adequate?
•          Am I having quality and undisturbed sleep?
•          Am I compromising on my sleep?
•          What are things that I can do to feel energise
  in the morning, during the day?
•          How are my sitting postures at work?
•          How many hours do I sit at work? (News:  Sitting is the New
  Smoking - https://www.startstanding.org/sitting-new-smoking/)

4^th Ball of Life - Spirit/Emotional – GLASS Ball:-

My friend said, he had burnt his midnight oil to buy Bigil at
1am. It is always get to spend time with family rather at work. Are we
addressing self / our family member’s feelings and emotions? Are we spending
enough time to address our own emotions/feelings?

•          What are the thoughts that impact my sleep?
•          How am I feeling every day?
•          What are my good feelings?
•          What are my bad feelings?
•          How is my feeling impact my daily life?
•          What is my dominant feeling in the morning,
  evening and night?
•          Do I have a pattern in my feeling?
•          What can I do to feel better?
•          What are circumstances/friends/criticism
  impacting my feelings?

5^th Ball of Life – Career – It’s a rubber ball:-

Most of us do the mistake of keeping Career as the first
ball. One of my subordinate team members was very happy yesterday as he
responded to a Whatsapp message at 3am in the morning in my one-2-one with him.
I appreciated his commitment. In the end, I asked him, “Where is that
expectation coming from to respond to messages at 3am”. As a manager, I am not
expecting him to respond to Whatsapp messages at 3am. He was startled for a
moment and then he said, he was habituated that way. In my company, we expect
our team members to do their 8 hours of duty in the most engaged which is good
enough for business. That is the expectation from the company. I need some
subordinate to have a balanced life. Do not burn your midnight oil unnecessary.
Do not take cell phones to your bedroom please.

•          What are my strengths?
•          What are my core skills?
•          What is my expectation in my role?
•          Am I overstretching myself or doing more than by
  burning my midnight oil?
•          Am I generalist or specialist?
•          What are things that I can do to specialize my
  skills, knowledge?
•          Am I a leader or follower?
•          Am I playing a victim role or empowered role?
•          How am I shaping?
•          Am I in the latest/state of art technology?
•            What are my gaps to scale up my skills in the
  next 6 months to 3 years?

Poster: Create
a poster encompassing your five secrets to life (Pancha Thanthiram)

I want to end with Ralph Waldo Emerson poem which is close
to my heart.

To laugh often and much;

To win the respect of the intelligent people

And the affection of children;

To earn the appreciation of honest critics

And endure the betrayal of false friends;

To appreciate beauty;

To find the beauty in others;

To give one’s self;

To leave the world a bit better,

Whether by a healthy child,

A garden patch,

Or a redeemed social condition;

To have played and laughed with enthusiasm

And sung with exaltation;

To know that one life has breathed easier

Because you lived here….

This is to have succeeded.”

              ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

Emerson says, “Success is to know that one life has breathed
easier because of you”. Shall we?.

Reference:-

Theme for the week: Begin
with End in Mind – Courtesy: Habit1 of Steven Covey’s 7 Habits of
highly effective people.

(Start Date 19^th Oct, End date 25^th Oct –
Saturday to Sunday)

Older videos for the week (for quick reference)

80th Birthday -
A Video From The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=txa-LRpMgss

Habit 2: Begin
With The End in Mind - Part B: Choosing a Life Center (In case if you do not
watch it yesterday)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=46XhE8rM3uY

Books: 7 Habits of highly effective people – Stephen Covey