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As we have
completed all the 7 Habits of Stephen Covey, I want take up “Greatness Series” to
address other best behaviours, habits, simplifying tools, good books, Videos,
TED Talks and resources.
completed all the 7 Habits of Stephen Covey, I want take up “Greatness Series” to
address other best behaviours, habits, simplifying tools, good books, Videos,
TED Talks and resources.
Today’s book is
“The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.
“The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.
Who is Don
Miguel Ruiz?
Miguel Ruiz?
Miguel Ángel Ruiz Macías, better known as Don Miguel Ruiz, is
a Mexican author of Toltec spiritualist and neoshamanistic texts. His work is
best-received among members of the New Thought movement that focuses on ancient
teachings as a means to achieve spiritual enlightenment.
a Mexican author of Toltec spiritualist and neoshamanistic texts. His work is
best-received among members of the New Thought movement that focuses on ancient
teachings as a means to achieve spiritual enlightenment.
Our author says, we
are all domesticated like we domesticate our dogs and cats. We all have a set
of rules book for each of us. If we abide by the rules, we feel happy. If we do
not, we feel guilty, sorrow and miserable.
are all domesticated like we domesticate our dogs and cats. We all have a set
of rules book for each of us. If we abide by the rules, we feel happy. If we do
not, we feel guilty, sorrow and miserable.
As long as we live
in these rules book, we may not experience self-growth and happiness.
in these rules book, we may not experience self-growth and happiness.
The Four Agreements
The Four Agreements©, was published
in 1997 and has sold around 9 million copies in US. It has been on the New York
Times Best selling list for almost a decade. Everything we do is based on
agreements we have made - agreements with ourselves, with other people, with
God, with life. But the most important agreements are the ones we make with
ourselves.
in 1997 and has sold around 9 million copies in US. It has been on the New York
Times Best selling list for almost a decade. Everything we do is based on
agreements we have made - agreements with ourselves, with other people, with
God, with life. But the most important agreements are the ones we make with
ourselves.
The Four
Agreements are:
1.
Be Impeccable With Your Word.
2.
Don't Take Anything Personally.
3.
Don't Make Assumptions.
4.
Always Do Your Best.
4 Agreements
Introduction Videos:-
Introduction Videos:-
In The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source
of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering.
Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of
conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom,
true happiness, and love.
of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering.
Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of
conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom,
true happiness, and love.
Domestication of
humans
humans
There are thousands of agreements you have made with
yourself, with other people, with God, with society, with your parents, with
your spouse, with your children. But the most important agreements are the ones
you made with yourself. In these agreements you tell yourself who you are, what
you feel, what you believe, and how to behave.
yourself, with other people, with God, with society, with your parents, with
your spouse, with your children. But the most important agreements are the ones
you made with yourself. In these agreements you tell yourself who you are, what
you feel, what you believe, and how to behave.
One single
agreement is not such a problem but we make many agreements that make us
suffer, that make us fail in life.
agreement is not such a problem but we make many agreements that make us
suffer, that make us fail in life.
If you want to live
a life of joy and fulfilment, you have to find the courage to break those
agreements that are fear based and claim your personal power.
a life of joy and fulfilment, you have to find the courage to break those
agreements that are fear based and claim your personal power.
We need a strong
will to adopt 4 agreements.
will to adopt 4 agreements.
Domestication:
Part 1
Part 1
In Part 1 of this
2-part video, we learn about the “domestication” of humans and how all the
rules and values of our family and society are imposed on us through a system
of punishment and reward. As little children, our true nature is to love and be
happy, to explore and enjoy life; we are completely authentic. But then we
learn to be what others think we “should” be, and because it’s not okay for us
to be what we are, we start pretending to be what we are not. By the time we
are teenagers, we’ve learned to judge ourselves, punish ourselves, and reward
ourselves according to agreements that we never even chose. The Four Agreements
help us to break self-limiting agreements and replace them with agreements that
bring us freedom, happiness, and love.
2-part video, we learn about the “domestication” of humans and how all the
rules and values of our family and society are imposed on us through a system
of punishment and reward. As little children, our true nature is to love and be
happy, to explore and enjoy life; we are completely authentic. But then we
learn to be what others think we “should” be, and because it’s not okay for us
to be what we are, we start pretending to be what we are not. By the time we
are teenagers, we’ve learned to judge ourselves, punish ourselves, and reward
ourselves according to agreements that we never even chose. The Four Agreements
help us to break self-limiting agreements and replace them with agreements that
bring us freedom, happiness, and love.
We mostly live a
life through a system of punishment and reward.
life through a system of punishment and reward.
We should behave in
certain way as accepted by society.
certain way as accepted by society.
We have learned to
judge ourselves, punish ourselves and reward ourselves according to the same
belief system we were given, and using the same system of punishment and
reward.
judge ourselves, punish ourselves and reward ourselves according to the same
belief system we were given, and using the same system of punishment and
reward.
Domestication:
Part 2
Part 2
In Part 2 of this
2-part video, we learn about the Book
of Law that rules our mind and the inner judge that makes us suffer
because we never measure up to our “image of perfection.” All of our normal
tendencies are lost in the process of domestication, and we begin to search for
what we have lost. We search for freedom because we are no longer free; we
search for happiness because we are no longer happy; we search for beauty
because we no longer believe we are beautiful.
What we are searching for is our “self.”
With practice, The Four Agreements help us to recover our “authentic
self” and it’s the greatest gift that we can give ourselves.
2-part video, we learn about the Book
of Law that rules our mind and the inner judge that makes us suffer
because we never measure up to our “image of perfection.” All of our normal
tendencies are lost in the process of domestication, and we begin to search for
what we have lost. We search for freedom because we are no longer free; we
search for happiness because we are no longer happy; we search for beauty
because we no longer believe we are beautiful.
What we are searching for is our “self.”
With practice, The Four Agreements help us to recover our “authentic
self” and it’s the greatest gift that we can give ourselves.
The victim carries
the blame, the guilt and the shame. It is the part of us that says, “Poor me,
I’m not good enough, I’m not intelligent enough, I’m not attractive enough, I’m
not worthy of love.”
the blame, the guilt and the shame. It is the part of us that says, “Poor me,
I’m not good enough, I’m not intelligent enough, I’m not attractive enough, I’m
not worthy of love.”
We try to be good
enough for everybody else, but we’re no longer good enough for ourselves
because we can never live up to our image of perfection.
enough for everybody else, but we’re no longer good enough for ourselves
because we can never live up to our image of perfection.
Ninety-five percent of the beliefs we have
stored in our minds are nothing but lies, and we suffer because we suffer we
believe all these lies.
stored in our minds are nothing but lies, and we suffer because we suffer we
believe all these lies.
All of our Normal
human tendencies like Joy, Love, Accept are lost in the process of domestication,
and we begin to search for what we have lost.
human tendencies like Joy, Love, Accept are lost in the process of domestication,
and we begin to search for what we have lost.
We start searching
for freedom, happiness and beauty.
for freedom, happiness and beauty.
What we searching for is our “Self.” True
freedom has to do with the human spirit – it is the freedom to be ourselves, to
live our own life, instead of the life of the belief system.
freedom has to do with the human spirit – it is the freedom to be ourselves, to
live our own life, instead of the life of the belief system.
If you have
awareness that the whole drama of your life is the result of what you believe,
then you can begin to change it. One of the ways to do this is to explore and
adopt alternative beliefs such as four agreements.
awareness that the whole drama of your life is the result of what you believe,
then you can begin to change it. One of the ways to do this is to explore and
adopt alternative beliefs such as four agreements.
With practice,
these four simple agreements help you to recover the authentic self. And it’s
the greatest gift that you can give yourself.
these four simple agreements help you to recover the authentic self. And it’s
the greatest gift that you can give yourself.
·
Be
impeccable with your word. ”Speak
with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against
yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction
of truth and love."
Be
impeccable with your word. ”Speak
with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against
yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction
of truth and love."
·
Don't
take anything personally. ”Nothing
others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their
own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions
of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering."
Don't
take anything personally. ”Nothing
others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their
own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions
of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering."
·
Don't
make assumptions. ”Find
the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate
with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and
drama. With just this one agreement, you
can completely transform your life."
Don't
make assumptions. ”Find
the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate
with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and
drama. With just this one agreement, you
can completely transform your life."
·
Always
do your best. ”Your
best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you
are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best,
and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret."[11]
Always
do your best. ”Your
best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you
are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best,
and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret."[11]
Videos:-
The Four
Agreements – Introduction
Agreements – Introduction
Domestication:
Part 1
Part 1
Domestication:
Part 2
Part 2
Oprah Show:-
Articles:-
Conclusion:-
What we searching for is our “Self.” True
freedom has to do with the human spirit – it is the freedom to be ourselves, to
live our own life, instead of the life of the belief system.
freedom has to do with the human spirit – it is the freedom to be ourselves, to
live our own life, instead of the life of the belief system.
Let us take four agreements in our hands to simplify our
life and maximize our joy, peace and happiness. We are the choice makers of our
life. Let us live our life to the fullest.
life and maximize our joy, peace and happiness. We are the choice makers of our
life. Let us live our life to the fullest.
It is simple to
understand, challenging to practice, powerful enough to change your life.
understand, challenging to practice, powerful enough to change your life.
Live by the four
agreements. Live a better life.
agreements. Live a better life.
Books:-
The four agreements
: Don Miguel Ruiz
: Don Miguel Ruiz
Tagline: Always do your best.
Exercise: Watch 4 Agreements Videos.
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