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I keep Steven covey
as a general theme. Individual episode can be viewed separately for any new comer
to this channel, or can be viewed it as a series.

Common Theme for
the week (till today (29^th Nov)) - Synergize (Courtesy: Stephen Covey).

Synergize
- The Habit of Creative Cooperation

Courtesy: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People –
Signature Program

Paradigm:

Ineffective:
It’s either your way or my way, or a compromise.

Effective: Together we can create a better
way, a higher way (Illayara’s Orchestra or Bono / U2 Music Band).

Priniciple:

The whole is
greater than the sum of its parts.

Behaviour

·
Value and
celebrate the differences.

·
Practice
creative cooperation.

Result:

·
Innovation
and invention

·
New and better
solutions

·
Transformed
relationships

·
Appreciation
of diverse perspectives

Who is the person not having problems in our life? Who is
the person not having issues in relationship?

If you dig
deeper into our problems, most of the problems are manmade problems. By nature,
we are synergistic. From planetary system to Geese movement, all are
synergistic. Whereas if I take “The Hindu” paper today, most of the problems
are manmade problems.

Let me take
big problems of today

·
Macro Issues

o
India / Pak

o
Kashmir /
China problems

o
Problems due
to all regions, all ISMs

·
Micro Issues

o
Husband wife
problems

o
In-laws
problems

o
Sibling
rivalries

Basically we know about the problems. What is the solution
to our problem?

This is where I want to go to Stephen Covey’s video.

5things that I learnt today are:-

Most of us tend to think we see objectively unaware that we’re
looking through our lens of experience, of conditioning, of scripting we
call that a paradigm, a pair of glasses. We are in a tunnel vision like
horses.
I do not see the
world as it is, I see the world as I am.
The key to
objectivity is to accept subjectivity
So this concept of valuing differences is just not a good
idea it’s not just something that brings unity if something that creates
through a cooperative communication process whole new options, new
alternatives.
If people will practice habits four, five and six Covey
says, he is genuinely excited by this experience we just had because I see
in the power of four, five and six the capability of solving any human
problem

Covey suggests following habit 4, habit 5 and 6 to solve
all problems

Today’s topic is : The Perspective of
Humility

Let me go back to Stephen covey on the
Perspective of Humility.

Today’s
cheat sheet:-

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1qkWm_EFlATvlVRqF4o0S-RNlBOZ3DQIo/view?usp=sharing

Today’s video:-

41 Habit 6: Synergize - Part C: The
Perspective of Humility

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZoDVQ0QES64&list=PLBcoHkB-HjG-9fXnrU6uwnw1ZoGzoVEcB&index=40

Lessons learnt from Video - Part C: The
Perspective of Humility

Why is it works?
Why is it produces something that is synergistic.
Do I have to sell out on my principles and values?
In fact, it is opposite; you actualize on principles and
values.
When you come up with the second half of habit 5 then to
be understood you can fully articulate
But when you go into habit 6 synergy - the dynamic
interaction of these people start to create solutions that are so opposite
sometimes then the original intention of one for the other
These may be just words to you until you experience it
you could hear this and still tonight get embroiled with
your spouse in a fight or with your kids
You could leave this very assembly and have some negative
interaction with someone and immediately seek first to be understood
The most dreaded thing to happen in marriage or in the
family is to destroy the ability to communicate synergistically and to
solve problems
You see the world not as it is but as you are
Most of us tend to think we see objectively unaware that we’re
looking through our lens of experience, of conditioning, of scripting we
call that a paradigm, a pair of glasses
The frame of reference out of which you operate the
implicit assumptions you operate on
Now the key to
objectivity is to accept subjectivity
To be aware I do
not see the world as it is, I see the world as I am.
Therefore if there is a difference what someone else sees
it differently based upon their experiences
I need their experience otherwise I will suffer forever
from an insufficiency of data
So this concept of valuing differences is just not a good
idea it’s not just something that brings unity if something that creates
through a cooperative communication process whole new options, New
alternatives
This idea of humility of accepting your subjective
involvement is not just some nice principle
It is a reality that people see things differently and
You need access to that and through the interaction the
spirit of win-win Habit 4
The spirit of seeking first of understand then to be
understood Habit 5
And as the people respectfully and empathically
communicate with each other back and forth something new happens
Covey says, “You can take any issue you want and create a
third alternative”
If people will practice habits four, five and six Covey
says, he is genuinely excited by his experience we just had because I see
in the power of four, five and six the capability of solving any human
problem

Application
suggestions:

·
Make a list of people who irritate you. Do they
represent different views that could lead to synergy if you had greater
intrinsic security and valued the difference?

·
The next time you have a disagreement or
confrontation with someone; attempt to understand the concerns underlying that
person’s position. Address those concerns in a creative and mutually beneficial
way.

Tips:- Use Talking Stick while having one to one discussion
either in personal or professional setting. This can be used in our daily
conversation with our spouses, teenage daughters/sons, brothers/sisters or with
our mom. This can be used in our team meeting as well.

Foundation of any relationship is deeper level of
understanding. Let’s understand, then to be understood.

Conclusion:-

All problems are manmade problems. All problems are due to
lack of understanding. Any problem can be solved by deeper understanding.

We are talking about Public victory. To practice public victory
and to become let us take Habit 4, 5 and 6 and practice it daily.

By working with different set of
challenging people, not only we grow, we grow with others as well.

Reference:-

Theme for the week: Synergize
– Habit 6 – Courtesy:
Steven Covey’s 7 Habits of highly effective people.

(Start Date 23^rd Nov, End date 29^th Nov –
Saturday to Friday)

Today’s Videos:-

41 Habit 6: Synergize - Part C: The
Perspective of Humility

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZoDVQ0QES64&list=PLBcoHkB-HjG-9fXnrU6uwnw1ZoGzoVEcB&index=40

Week’s Video for quick reference.